Three difficult lessons I’ve learned this year

  1. Always have your portfolio ready. Always.
  2. Know when it’s time to burn the midnight oil; know when it’s time to throw in the towel.
  3. Be careful about “mentors” who are only after your connections.

My maternity leave ends in two weeks. I’m fortunate to work for a company where people go out of their way to convince you to take your leave, and leave you be while you’re out.

Professionally, an extended leave from work has always been a time for unexpected discernment for me. This time, I may have passed up on a good opportunity. I don’t know. Even I have a breaking point when it comes to my work ethic and I just may never know. But it made me think long and hard about the cards I was dealt in this life, my life choices, the career I’m expected to have, and the likelihood of getting to do the work that my heart wants to do.

It’s going to take some time to move on from the whole mentor situation though. As a person who doesn’t often show vulnerability–especially when it comes to motherhood–I thought I was safe, but turns out I wasn’t. Their actions were petty and weak. I’ll be more than alright without them, but it still hurts.

For the next two weeks I’m going to focus on as much self-care as I can. We’re talking basic stuff here–like getting a haircut, or sleeping. I’m going back to work having emerged from a surprisingly multi-dimensional crucible. I have a few less fucks to give.

By Desiree Zamora Garcia

I like to eat, think, and take things apart.